Just got this from my sister. She says it reminds her of Mimi, our granny, who died last January. It's from The Velveteen Rabbit.
"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."
"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.
"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."
"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"
"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."
Wisdom and inspiration come from unexpected places. Glad Giuls is always on the lookout.
In fourth and fifth grade, I refused to read books. Almost without exception (I think I might have half-assedly skimmed a Matt Christopher novel or two). Every book report type assignment was a work of imagination and imagination alone. I'd look at the picture on a book's front cover. I'd read the notes on the back cover. I'd flip through and remember chapter titles. I'd read the first and last few pages. And I'd make the rest up.
I think. That's how I remember it anyway. Which also might be a work of my imagination.But, regardless, in sixth grade, everything, whatever that was, changed.I read Jurassic Park, on my own, for fun, and I loved every word of it. I loved it so much I started reading. I think Andromeda Strain came next. Then maybe Rising Sun. And Sphere. And The Great Train Robbery. And books by other authors as well. Catch-22, eventually. Then it was ON. I'd had my next big reading epiphany: that the best literature didn't have to connect in some way to dinosaurs. And then came the Electric Kool Aid Acid Test epiphany: that journalism could be literature. And then Ken Kesey. And Borges. And Vonnegut. And Hunter S. Thompson. And Baldwin. And Nabokov. And now Steinbeck. Epiphanies every one of them. Epiphanies tracing back to Jurassic Park. Michael Crichton was a strange and controversial and fascinating guy. And he died day before yesterday. He taught me to read, and I wish I could have thanked him in person for that.Tom asked me today what I do when a book that a don't want to end ends.
I told him I sometimes go back and read the beginning again. We always miss things in the beginning. Its fun to go back and see what they were.
He asked me what I do after that.
I said sometimes I read the end again, see if there's anything I missed there, anything else I should be thinking about as the story drifts from my mind.
What then, he asked.
I guess then I move on to the next book, I said.
Yeah, he said, that's what you have to do. It's a bummer, but you can't stay there forever.
He said that's one of the big things with which the main character in his book is struggling: the ability to walk away from those elevated moments, the ability to recognize when it's time to move on to the next thing, even if it's not at that same level, the ability to accept that it's ok that we don't always live like that, in those states, at those levels, that it's ok to come down and experience imperfection again. And not just ok. Good. Necessary. What makes it possible to elevate again, whenever that might be.
Spending the next five days with my friend Tom. The man's a writer. A real writer. Books not blogs. And that's awesome. A decision I very much respect. Been an excellent first few hours. Lot of talk and thinking about writing and stories. Can't get enough.